The Issue of Self-Hatred
I really hate when people misconstrue what you are saying and base it on some imagined insecurity. For example; your friends boyfriend is cheating on her. In response you make her aware of his infidelity, which she denies by claiming that your jealous of her relationship since she is single.
This is how I feel most people approach conversations of issues about self hate and ethnicity. The person in most cases is not jealous but is genuinely concerned. The fact that skin color/hair texture education is very important to me is not that I’m jealous. But instead as someone who had a hard time accepting I was bothered by my skin color and hair texture I don’t want anyone else have the same problem. The issue is preventable. We should all start being honest about why we are afraid of playing in the sun, or our constant need to relax our hair and add extensions..
At the core of it be who are you. I just have a problem with the need to be opposite of that be considered beautiful. Outside of this do what you want.